A Woman’s Self Worth

July 28, 2010 — 8 Comments

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question:

‘What kind of man are you looking for?’

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking,
‘Do you really want to know?’

Reluctantly, he said, ‘Yes.

She began to expound, ‘
As a woman in this day & age,
I am in a position to ask a man: “What can you do for me that I can’t do for myself?”

I pay my own bills.
I take care of my household without the help of any man…
or woman for that matter.

I am in the position to ask, ‘What can you bring to the table?’

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, ‘
I am not referring to money.
I need something more.
I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.

She said, ‘I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man.

I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.

I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t need a financial burden.

I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.

I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.

I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.

I need someone whom I can respect… In order to be submissive, I must respect him.

I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business.

I have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy.

And by the way, I am not looking for him…He will find me.
He will recognize himself in me.

He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me.
God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.

When she finished her spill, she looked at him.

He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, ‘You are asking a lot.

She replied, “I’m worth a lot”.

Enjoy! You all are Worth More Than Rubies!


8 responses to A Woman’s Self Worth


    That’s a great answer. I hope its a true story.
    I would that true leadership as a husband is choosing to submit to something higher than yourself and serve the best interest of your mate. Living this would make it easier for a woman to submit willingly.
    Because submission isn’t easy, but neither is leadership
    But I think necessarily the former must preceed the latter.
    Yet I wonder about when ladies say such things but when in relationship don’t allow such a man to actually lead. Instead their actions speak of their value of the man only in his utility to fulfill the image in her own head



    I love this! Bookmarking and saving this for the archives


    WOW! gonna share with friends. love it.


    beautifully powerful. thanks for sharing.

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